From my session "Happiness After Death" by Drs. Gloria & Heidi Horsley, I learned to keep my heart open to hope. In fact, that is the name of their organization, Open to Hope, which helps those grieving after a loss. Gloria and Heidi recognized that this was NOT the life I planned, wanted or hoped for, but they assured me that my overall satisfaction with life will return to what it was with time. Time...I have heard it is the great healer. I will never get over losing my husband, but I will overcome the pain.
Here are the the "Nine Steps to Finding Hope After Loss" that I learned from this session:
- Lighten Your Load - Grief is heavy lifting. Let people help you.
- Find Gratitude - Being thankful can change how you feel. In fact 8 minutes of gratitude a day can change your brain chemistry.
- Be of Service - Take care of yourself first and then move out to others.
- Move Your Body - Exercise can neutralize the acid in your body. This makes you feel better (and look better, too).
- Take Care of Yourself and Then Others - Don't forget to make yourself a priority. Don't put your own essential needs at the bottom of your to-do list.
- Recognize Signs - God sends us signs to let us know that things are going to be okay. Open your hearts to those connections.
- Hug and Be Hugged - You need to give and/or receive 18 hugs a day.
- Laughter - Allow yourself to laugh and don't feel guilty about it. If you laugh it changes how you feel for 45 minutes.
- Stay Connected - Don't isolate yourself.
I very much enjoyed this session and the practical advice offered. Some of these things I learned on my own the hard way. Others were common sense, but widow-head had obscured their obvious benefit.
Hoping you find comfort in these steps toward hope.