Lessons in Loss and Living, was one of our speakers at Camp Widow. Here are some notes from her session:
- Learn to cope with grace.
- Never allow the burdens of grief to negate the blessings I have in my life.
- The cup is half empty and half full at the same time. (Wow...so practical, but I had never thought of that. Duh!)
- Be flexible and roll with the punches, especially those I don't see coming. (You would think that folks wouldn't punch a widow/widower when they're down...but believe me, they do.)
- I did not have control of the circumstances that got me to widowhood, but I do have some control over how I play with the cards I've been dealt.
- This is NOT the life I signed up for, but it is MY life.
- Seek comfort and ways to cope; don't look for a cure. (The cure is not out there...I promise.)
- Create my own magic wand... (still trying to make mine to match my lovely widow tiara.)
- I can visit the land of "OH, WOE IS ME," but I can not live there. (There is an expiration date on all visits...)
- Learn to cultivate optimism: Pay attention to how I think; Count my blessings, not my curses; Be grateful (look for little things, when big things aren't there); See the capacity to remain in the moment.
- Live a TECHNICOLOR life. Life is precious and changes on a dime. Live life to the fullest.
- Loss is an inevitable life experience. (Man...don't I know it.)
- Appreciate what I still have despite what I have lost.
- Set priorities with the life I still have...decide what is important and take charge of that. (Okay...I'm still working on my list.)
This was a great session. I'm coping, but not so gracefully and I am woefully ungrateful for my blessings. I still look back with longing...and forward with fear. But, I do know this. I'm going to survive.
I'm still working on a way to thrive.