Saturday, June 4, 2011

Love is a DECISION

I went with girlfriends last night to hear one of our favorite beach bands play. Since I turn into a pumpkin at midnight, I talked a few friends into taking me back to my condo early. While walking to our car, we witnessed a couple fighting. No, blows weren’t passed; in fact they were on opposite sides of the parking lot having their fight over their cell phones. Apparently, she didn’t give a rip about anyone but herself (his point of view) and he was a control freak (her point of view). There was much discussion back and forth and the words weren’t very nice, so I’ll gloss over that. However, what struck me about that fight was how stupid it was.

Did that couple realize how LUCKY they were to have each other? I wanted to scream at both of them…what if one of you DIED tonight on the way home…would that fight have been worth it? I see too many couples take their relationships for granted. They forget why they fell in love. They forget the dreams they made. They forget their commitments. It becomes all about personal happiness, rather than what is BEST for the both of them.

Love is a decision, not a feeling or an emotion. It’s a decision you make every day of your life. Even when your spouse doesn’t take out the trash…or spends too much time on the golf course…or when  your new haircut or outfit goes unnoticed…or when they make horrible decisions that make your world crumble…you can still DECIDE to love. It’s what you promised on that altar before God and man…for better or worse. And when you DECIDE not to love, you’re the biggest loser of all and a liar to boot.

Take it from a widow that wishes every day that she had her husband at home to leave the toilet seat up, or scatter popsicle sticks and papers all around the couch, or smoke his stinky cigars in the house, or forget even the most important details. All those things that drive you CRAZY about your spouse are what you will miss the most when they are gone.

So, DECIDE to love your spouse. DECIDE!



Mrs. Whatley said...

Cindy, you are so talented! You have the gift of writing so that others can read your blog and FEEL what you have to say. Love you!

A Myeloma Widow's Journey said...

So very well said, Cyna.